30 Years 30 Golden Advice

March 13, 2014

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Three decades have gone by since I was born. 
But still, I feel as though it was yesterday, that I was one, and in a blink of an eye I turned 30. 

Every birthday of mine has helped me reflect upon the years that have elapsed. 

This is what pushed me, to share with you the 30 invaluable pieces of advice, given to me over the years by family,friends and even from people who on few occasions been hostile towards me. These advice have got me through the turbulent times and helped me grow as an individual. 

My dear readers do bear with me on the length of this post. 

But, I believe it might help smooth things out for you, as it did for me, especially if you feel the need to get the ball rolling.

30 years 30 Golden Advice

1. No task is too small to be done properly.

However unimportant a task might seem to you, do it properly or don't do it at all. There's no point in doing anything half heartedly. Accomplishing the little tasks appropriately, puts you in a better position to achieve great things.

2. Never take anything for granted

Have you ever taken anything lightly and regrett it at a later stage? 

If you replied 'yes', then from now on take time to acknowledge people and things in your life. Without these your life wouldn't be as easy as it is. 

Nowadays we are so used to having everything in excessive amounts that, we believe we are entitled to it. But, as the proverb goes, "we never miss the water till the well runs dry". Let's practice gratefulness and count our blessings before it gets too late!

3. Be easygoing

Easy going people quickly adapt and mould themselves to any given situation without difficulty. Taking things too seriously is harmful, creating unnecessary tensions and stressing yourself out. People with easy going personalities, tend to make friends quicker and are empathetic. Are you easy going or fussed? Think about it!!

4. Never make a decision when you're upset.

Making decisions while you're annoyed, is as damaging as driving under the influence of alcohol.  Anger has a tendency to blind you from reason, cloud your judgement and you could unwillingly do something horrible.  Walk away when you're upset. Go get some fresh air and make a decision when you feel better.

5. Be confident, not overconfident.

Confidence is having faith. Overconfidence is thinking you're invincible. Confidence is that strong feeling that we can complete a given task whereas over confidence is that person who feels only he can complete that task. As Neil Armstrong said "When you get overconfident, that's when something snaps up and bites you".  Ouch that hurts(^.*)

6. Take small steps in the right direction

Take an initiative with a simple stride. No matter how complicated or tough your endeavours are, keep moving forward. I remember how reluctant I used to be in taking various life decisions. Getting started was always the hardest part. But, once I did, I never looked back. 

7. Being rejected is not the end of the world.

It hurts!
It makes us feel inadequate. However, it's entirely up to us, whether we allow it to ruin us or make us stronger. People with high aspirations, never take rejection seriously, as they have full faith in their capabilities. Remember Brian Acton, the Co-Founder of Whats App? He was twice rejected by Facebook and Twitter for a job. But that never dimmed his aspirations. He instead emerged stronger than ever!! Check this out

8. Never be afraid to make mistakes

Are you always making sure not to make any mistake but find that it's inevitable? Well don't worry. Mistakes are our best teachers and stepping stones to success. Learn from your mistakes and grow wiser. 

9. The day you think you know it all, is the day you know nothing at all.

You must have come across lots of "know it all" people. When you think you know everything, you mislead yourself and people around you. Even if you believe you're a genius remember, there's always something you don't know. Even if you are a doctor or lawyer, a person as simple as a labourer or cleaner, could teach you something you knew nothing about.  

10. You are on your own.

You might be feeling secured among your circle of family and friends. But most of the time you are by yourself. Let's face it, how often have you had your friends besides you when you were in deep trouble or when you needed help? If you had the support you needed you're among the lucky ones!! In general we are all forced to be independent and bail ourselves out of the mess we're in. It's a cruel reality of life. Get used to it!

11. Everything seems impossible until it's done.

"I will never be able to buy a house"
"I love to dance, but it's too tough"
"I would love to go to Paris, but it's too costly"
Does these  sound familiar to you??
Well most of us quit before we even begin. I remember having to study statistics as part of my Bachelor's program. Simple mention of this subject used to terrify me, let alone studying it. It felt almost impossible to pass the subject. The thought of having to redo a semester was extremely worrying. I then took every help I got from my tutor and husband who patiently helped me understand the different concepts. I got through.

You simply need to have a positive mindset to get started. When it's done you will only feel on top of the world and accomplished.

12. Reach down and lift people.
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Personally, I always feel happier every time I lend a helping hand.  Next time you feel distraught and unhappy with yourself, go out and help someone. 

There's nothing in comparison to happiness that stems from spending time and effort helping somebody in need.

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13. Stick to your to do list.

Many of you must be having a to do list. But how many of you actually stick to it? The to do list is what helps keep you on track, boosting efficiency on a daily basis. Try to avoid deviating from it unless, another commitment of yours requires immediate attention. 

14. Go the extra mile.

When you are willing to go beyond and do more of what is expected from you, it makes you stand out and succeed in the long run. Going the extra mile is essential in various areas of your life. 

15. Get over the habit of  blaming fate and people.

"It's my fate."
"I am unhappy because of some them".

Why do you always feel the need to blame fate or people when things go wrong? Remind yourself that you get what you give off. Take responsibility. It's your life. Your destiny lies in your own hands.

16. Be around people who inspire you.

People you are surrounded with influence your life in different ways. Some will encourage you. Some will suck the life out of you. 
Over the years, I have met lots of people who walked in and out of my life. I never hesitate in letting go of those who drain me. 
But I make sure to retain those who motivate me, as they help make me a better person.  Thank you to all those wonderful people!!

17. Be prepared for whatever life throws at you. 

Life is unexpected. You can never be certain of whatever's round the corner. Being unprepared for a worst case scenario, might just be the last straw that breaks the camel's back. Be ready for the unexpected and have a plan B. This could help soften the blow. 

18. Never lose sight of your end vision.

The best way to fulfill your dreams is to keep a watchful eye on your end vision at all times. While I follow my goals, I sometimes stumble and feel gutted, but that end vision is what keeps me going. Knowing that the outcome will be worthwhile, is what makes me muster all the courage and move forward.

19. Never allow what people say about you, define who you are.

We  come across people who criticize us, those who make spiteful remarks to make us feel awful about ourselves. Remember!! What people think or say about you is none of your business. Never allow others opinions of you, affect who you are. I strongly believe, what you think of yourself is what defines you. 

20. Invest in your health.

Health is wealth. But, do you really invest enough in maintaining a good health? Taking time out to care for yourself means less visits to the doctor and more time spent enjoying life to the fullest. However much busy you might get, remind yourself that, the foundation to a contented life is health.

21. Welcome change openhandedly.

Change is often uncomfortable. Being unwilling to change means, putting restrictions and limitations on yourself. Instead,being open to change makes life more exciting and enjoyable. You become more aware that the world is full of possibilities. 

22.Consistency is key to success.

No matter what you do in life, consistency is what you should strive for, if you wish to succeed. Do you want to lose weight? You expect to do so working out once in a blue moon? Be consistent in your daily actions and see the impact that it has on your life.

23. Stop wanting to please people.

Do you feel the need to please people? Then you're in trouble. Because when you're always trying to please others they will start dictating your life. 

This doesn't mean you stop doing nice things for others. It only means be aware of WHO you are doing it for. Are they worthy of your kindness? Don't worry about others not accepting who you are as a person. If they know your worth they will themselves come to you. 

24. Excuses are lies we tell ourselves.

Do you make excuses for not completing an assignment? I did. We all do. You and I know that's it's a pretext. A lie is what you use to save your skin. Little do you realize that those excuses are what encourages you to procrastinate and stops you from being productive. Get over the bad habit of making excuses and make the most of life.

25. Beware of emotional manipulators.

Emotional blackmailers are dangerous. They comfortably twist stories and trick you into doing things, you are not willing to do. They take advantage of you. You tend to believe them because their problems and their crocodile tears look real to you. If you know such a person, please do yourself a favour and get away from them as soon as you can!! 

26. Take as many pictures as you want. 

I was given this advice from a distant relative of mine. Am happy to be practising it. I am now a person who never gets enough of taking pictures or having pictures of myself taken. 

I love the fact of capturing moments, however insignificant it might seem to others. I believe it's an interesting way to look back at my life when I turn 60 and more if ever I do live that long:) 
Lights, camera and action!!

27. Humility is key.

There's a fine line between self esteem and arrogance. That fine line is humility. Arrogance doesn't get you far whereas staying humble keeps you grounded and allows you to be respected. In doing so, remember not to overdo humbleness and downrate yourself in the process.

28. Concentrate on the task at hand.

Do you want to be efficient and productive in whatever you do?
Then concentrate on what you are doing at the moment.  Lack of concentration occurs when you feel like checking on your phone every minute, wanting to nibble on something and when your attention is constantly geared towards things, unrelated to the task at hand. People with high levels of concentration, excel at whatever they do. 

29. Keep it simple.

This sentence in itself is simple. Isn't it? Why complicate things? Sometimes we become so overwhelmed, that we get it all wrong. We try hard to impress. The best way to do so is to keep it straightforward and simple.

30. Don't turn a blind eye.

Never turn a blind eye on injustice, poverty and discrimination. There's nothing worse than pretending to be blind to wrong doings. If you've seen or heard something disturbing be brave enough to speak out. Who knows you might be saving a life or two!!

These 30 advice are just the tip of the iceberg. 
I am hoping they might be useful to you too..If not all...atleast a few!!

For the years ahead of me, I am fully aware, that I still have so much more to learn. 
At this stage I definitely feel better prepared to take on life challenges, even if it means learning the hard way!!

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  1. Good read, enjoyed it :)

    from another morisien

  2. Hi Sydney Noob....Thanks for taking time to read and dopping a comment. Much appreciated my dear morisien:)


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