Top 6 Surefire Ways To Attract Positive Relationships In Your Life3:12 PM
When I say 'wrong' it doesn't necessarily mean 'bad'.
It only means that some people are simply not meant to be a part of your life.
They're a mismatch for you.
If you're in a relationship, are you moving from one abusive relationship to the other?
Does your circle of friends consist of people who are needy, disrespectful, sarcastic, backstabbers, and complainers?
If you answered affirmatively to most of the questions asked above, I could assure you have come to the right place.
It is a cause for concern if you are surrounded by -
- Those who take advantage of you.
- Those who drain all your energy, making you feel bad about yourself.
- Those sending negative vibes your way.
- Those who are nice on your face and badmouth you when you're not in sight.
- Those who are needy and want you to be available 24/7.
Honestly, who wants to be around such people?
As we grow old, we realize the importance of having REAL positive relationships, as opposed to those who simply say a 'hi’ and a 'bye'.
We become increasingly selective and look for those who truly want to be part of our lives.
Looking into my circle of friends makes me feel pleased.
I am surrounded by wonderful people, both online and offline.
As I work towards becoming a better person, I find it much easier to attract positive relationships, and I don't hesitate in letting go of those who bring me negativity.
Believe it or not, our success is partly determined by the people we are surrounded with on a daily basis.
We all want people whose aspirations are similar to ours - those who inspire and believe in us when we doubt ourselves.
Unfortunately, attracting positive relationships doesn't happen by chance, and certainly not overnight.
It requires a fair bit of personal effort and belief that you can attract who you want in your life.
We want to have people who bring more to the table than just their mouths.
But hang on a minute! Who's to blame?
You are not going to like this.
So who's to blame? YOU ARE TO BLAME! I know you're frowning reading this.
You must be thinking I'm crazy.
But read the rest of the post before jumping to any conclusions.
We often tend to associate bad happenings as something that's not in our control.
If we're struggling economically, we blame the taxes.
If we're unemployed, we blame the government.
If people with a negative attitude surround us, we blame them.
In reality, most of what happens to us is through our own conscious and unconscious doings.
Nobody's to blame.
If you're struggling economically, why blame the taxes?
Chances are that you are not able to manage your finances properly.
If you're unemployed, blaming the government won't solve a thing.
You probably are limiting yourself to one place and not looking hard enough.
Likewise, if you find yourself surrounded by negative people, it is likely that you let them in yourself.
2016 being just around the corner, I'm sure you'd love to attract positive relationships.
Here are my top 6 ways to help you go about this process.
Be Your Authentic Self
I can't stop myself from emphasizing how important it is to be authentic. We are living in a world where many people are tempted to imitate.
I've often seen people letting go of their true selves, just to fit in.
If you can't be authentic around those you mingle with, it is time to reconsider your circle of friends.
Being true to yourself sounds simple, but there's a lot of courage and willpower involved.
You might annoy a few, and it could cost you a few friends, but it will be worth it in the long run.
People are often attracted to those who are true to themselves.
Hence, whatever you do, be honest and authentic.
You have nothing to lose and everything to gain in doing so.
Toot Your Horn
Yes! You heard me right.
Toot your horn.
You are your own brand.
If you don't, who will?
You probably aren't crossing paths with people you want in your life simply because you aren't advocating for yourself.
Remember, though, there's a fine line on calling to get noticed and seeking attention in an obnoxious manner.
Get that right and you'll attract who you want, and be able to make a difference.
Display your work. Get recognized for what you do.
Be known. Use social media to your advantage here, but don't overdo it.
Know What you Want and Stick to It
People often struggle to attract positive relationships because they still don’t know what they want. They are confused and simply let life happen to them.
That’s a dilemma.
The moment you know exactly what you want is the moment everything else starts falling into place.
Let me share my personal experience here.
After spending years being confused and dazed about what I wanted, I realized I wanted to make a difference in people's lives.
I began by offering support and advice to anybody feeling under the weather.
I did this by posting positive messages on social media and encouraging people to see the brighter side of life on a daily basis, which ultimately led me to blog.
While blogging about my experiences and thoughts on positivity, I was lucky to come across awesome people who always looked at the glass half full.
They were people I wanted to mingle with, people I felt comfortable sharing my dreams and aspirations with.
Learn to Set Personal Boundaries
Setting boundaries is a challenge for many. The moment you set them, you risk disappointing your family and friends.
Those who used to believe you’re available 24/7 will even hate you for this.
However, if you want your time and privacy to be respected, you will have to set some boundaries.
For instance, I’ve had a couple of folks, who during the weekend would just barge into my house at any time of the day.
That used to disturb my routine, and I knew I had to do something about it.
I politely told them, I have quite a few things to do, and if they wanted to come over, they'd have to inform me first.
However, they took offense and thought I was arrogant.
I can’t control people’s reactions, but I can certainly teach them to respect the boundaries I set.
Setting personal boundaries is as important as the food you eat. It means you care about yourself and respect your time.
Here’s the thing. As the saying goes,
“Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”
Hence, those who refuse to respect your boundaries shouldn’t be part of your life, and those who do so will never be offended by it. Instead, these people will be inclined to respect you even more.
Find Like Minded People
If you're looking to surround yourself with people who inspire you, take part in seminars and workshops where you get to network with people whose interests are similar to yours.
You don't need me to tell you the power of the Internet.
The world is literally at our fingertips.
Finding like-minded people is a breeze. You could easily join online forums, groups, communities you're interested in, share your views, and listen to what others have to say.
You could also attend webinars, Skype sessions or Google hangouts, and very likely come across people who share your vision and passion.
Start choosing wisely and carefully.
"Who you hang out with determines what you dream about and what you collide with. And the collisions and the dreams lead to your changes. And the changes are what you become. Change the outcome by changing your circle" Seth Godin
Stop Self Limiting Beliefs In Its Tracks
“I don’t attract people I want in my life because I’m not good enough. I’m not smart enough. I always get rejected.”
Is that what you have been telling yourself or feel so far?
It’s time to change it.
Self-limiting beliefs prevent us from living a great life. It stops us from recognizing our potential. It prevents us from attracting positive relationships.
Such beliefs make us feel as fragile as glass.
Have you ever heard of the ‘glass delusion’?
According to Wikipedia, the ‘glass delusion’ is a psychiatric disorder that was recorded in Europe.
Some people feared they were made of glass and, therefore, likely to shatter into pieces.
King Charles VI of France was believed to be the early sufferer. He avoided human contact and even went to the extent of wearing reinforced clothing to protect himself from accidental shattering.
Now you must be thinking this glass delusion is irrational. Yes! Maybe it is now.
However, it holds an important lesson.
If you keep telling yourself,
“I can’t take this risk because I will get hurt.”
The only difference between you and King Charles is that his belief was based on human contact, whereas, yours is based on your emotions.
You won’t take a risk because you’re scared your emotions will get hurt. You believe setbacks, failures, and uncomfortable situations in life will shatter you into a million pieces.
Your beliefs are as irrational as King Charles’.
If you want to attract positive relationships, you’ll have to put yourself out there, even if it feels awkward.
If you love somebody, you have to be brave enough to let them know about it even if that means being rejected. Rejection won’t kill you. It will only make you stronger.
Over to you –
Have you ever wondered what is stopping you from attracting positive relationships in your life?
How do you attract positive relationships in your life?
Is it a struggle to do so?
How do you attract positive relationships in your life?
Is it a struggle to do so?