8 Valuable Life Lessons I Learned From My Newborn

October 11, 2016

When I look at this tiny, perfect(perfect for me) little being staring at me, I wonder,
Wow! I am now a mother. 

Nine months in the making and here I am holding my son in my arms. 

Life will never be the same again. 
How can it be? When you have your heart walking outside your body.

During my pregnancy, I kept thinking of all the important lessons I plan to teach my child. Never have I thought this tiny little being would teach me instead.

 Life will catch you on the blind side. Be prepared.

Ever since I knew I was expecting, I had convinced myself I would have a natural birth. 
I took it seriously. 

I exercised, was food conscious, worked, walked...did everything I was advised to facilitate a natural birth. 

I read lots of articles on childbirth and skipped all sections that wrote about caesarean like it did not matter. 

I was so sure of myself and brushed everything and anything that suggested a c-section. Now I admit...it was terribly naive of me.

My contractions began on the 1st of September. 
Rushed to the hospital and spent 19 hours in labor but my little one had other plans for me.

A c-section was inevitable. It did come as a shock but at the time I was way more concerned with the well being of my baby than the c-section.

Once I was out of the operation theater and back to my room, reality started to dawn on me.

The one thing I dreaded most had happened to me. 

While I held my bundle of joy and the morphine started to wear off...pain began to kick in, I swear for the first time in my life...I was going through heaven and hell at the same time.

Tears of joy and fear rolled down my cheeks. 
Fear, because I suddenly came to the realization that I knew nothing about c-sections. 

How was I meant to recover from this major operation?

 Use your mind to heal your body

Your body is nothing short of a miracle.

When I was back home from hospital, it took me a couple days to wrap my head around what I had gone through leading up to the birth of my son. 

Emotions ran high. I was in so much pain that I could barely walk. 
Getting out of bed every morning was a nightmare.

I remembered the doctors and midwives words...
It takes at least 6 weeks to recover from a c-section.

My goodness! I may sound crazy. But I wanted to get well overnight. 

Impatient as I am 6weeks felt like ages.

Even though I had my husband and in-laws giving me a helping hand...I dearly wanted to get back to my pre-pregnancy self as soon as possible.

Every single day I would focus more on the joys of having a new born to care for than on my pain.

Close to five weeks now.
I must admit...I may not have recovered a 100% but I'm surely feeling great and pain-free. 

I am on the move again and definitely enjoying my role as a mother.

 Enjoy the present moment

My husband and I were over the moon when we knew about the pregnancy. 
Time went by so fast. 

I can't believe we're parents and our son is already over a month old.

We notice something new and different about our son every single day. It's so exciting and endearing.

He reminds me to be in the moment and soak in every second as these precious times won't come back again.

 It's the little things that matter most

I never thought someone so tiny can take up so much space in my heart. 
I am so helplessly in love with my little man. 

I adore the way he looks at me.
His unpredictable smiles and cooing sounds make my day. 

His facial expressions and gestures cheer me up.

This may seem and sound insignificant to others but means the world to me.

 Selfless with my time

Before having my baby, I used to determine how I spent every hour of the day. 

I hated having my time wasted and would rarely alter my schedule for anybody. 
When I began a task I would make sure to complete it without being interrupted. 

Now I find myself dropping anything I do for my son.
Whether I'm in the middle of a phone call, doing household chores, blogging, eating or watching TV...

If he needs me I am more than willing to drop whatever I am doing to take care of him.

 You can do it even if you think you cannot

I realized having a baby changes your life drastically. 
It's no child's play. 

Babies are adorable and precious but also challenging to look after.
They test your resilience and patience.

When I was back home from hospital, I was scared. 
Scared and in doubt. 

So many questions popped in my head.

Will I be able to look after this tiny little being?
Will I be able to understand what he needs?
Will I be successful at breastfeeding him to his heart's content?
What if he doesn't settle down after being fed?
I love my sleep. Will I be able to wake up every now and then to nurse him?

It all seemed overwhelming and difficult.

However, I did surprise myself. Within a week I got the hang of it.

I was quite exhausted from all the sleepless nights but I was a happy and satisfied mother.

 Time is precious. Use it wisely.

I thought I knew how to use my time wisely.
However, my son reminded me that I still had to master the skill of time management.

Now...I barely allow a second to pass by without doing something.
I find myself catching up on emails, important phone calls, taking care of my home, cooking, blogging and a lot more while he sleeps.

Gone are the days when I would leisurely sit back and relax from time to time.
At this stage, I cannot afford to lose a second.

 You don't need much to be happy.

My son has had me in deep thoughts since he came into my life.
Every time he feeds and stares at me with grateful eyes he constantly reminds me that one doesn't need much to be happy.

Grant Read rightly says, 

"Any newborn has only 3 needs,
Warmth in the arms of its mother.
Food from her breasts.
Security in the knowledge of her presence".

All babies are happy if these three needs of theirs are met.

Sometimes we complicate our lives so much so that we become unhappy. We are tough to please. In this fast evolving world I think it would be to our advantage if we practiced happiness with less than we think we need.

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  1. Hi Hema,

    Many congratulations :)

    Yes, I've been reading ALL your updates and seeing the beautiful pictures you shared on the arrival of your bundle of joy! I can understand how overwhelming it can all get, yet you managed to find time to write about it all, which is amazing!

    True, life certainly has it's own way of turning around things, which aren't what we expect, but everything that comes to us in our lives, IS a blessing from the Almighty, something which was perhaps meant to me. Your C-section, reminds me of mine, and I had both my kid's the same way, so it's all just a matter of time, and you'd be back to your normal self in no time. And with such a loving and supportive husband, you're going to do it all!

    Thanks for sharing your happiness with us - bless you all. Enjoy your motherhood :)

    1. Hello Harleena,

      I'm so happy to read your comment.
      I do feel blessed to be a mother and I'm certainly learning and enjoying every second of it...although as I mentioned it can be overwhelming at times.

      Life is truly unpredictable. You have to expect the unexpected.
      WOW! You had a c-section too.
      Now I can totally relate and understand what it feels like.

      Thank you for reading my post and leaving me your comment. You made my day :)


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