20 Effective Ways To Stop Feeling Insecure And Love Your Body

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"There's a global epidemic of body hating"

says Tara Brumfitt

I'm really insecure about my body frame and tummy. 

I have such fat cheeks and everybody points it out when they see me. 

I have scars, pimples, a big belly.

I'm unattractive from head to toe but I still need to keep going.

I despise myself for being so skinny and short.

Can you relate to any of the above statements? 

I did not come up with them...I came across these comments on social media and there were thousands of them both from men and women.

That's when I knew I had to get this blog post out there as soon as possible. 

Men and women around the world are constantly worried about their looks and figure. 

Let's get real here. I don't think there's anyone in this world whose 100% fine with their body.
It's human nature to find flaws in our bodies.....

I do it too from time to time.
But then I tell myself , "hey girl get a grip! your imperfections give you an identity and make you unique".

Finding faults with your body can be self-destructive and detrimental to your mental and emotional well-being...especially when you compare yourself to others and start hating your body for not having the perfect tan, perfect hair, perfect skin tone etc.

Unfortunately, in this day an age information being at our fingertips, we are drowning in messages that encourage us to compare and hate our bodies.



We are bombarded with ads that convince us to go under the knife, get a boob job done, get hip enhancement, thigh augmentations and so many other surgeries that can prove to be harmful. 

Recently I came across beauty apps that can make you look flawless in every photo. 
You can slim your face, enlarge your eyes, stretch your height and even get rid of acne. 

Apps like these are destroying people's self-esteem. 

In addition to that, we have tons of glossy celebrity and fashion magazines showcasing what constitutes a perfect body and TV ads promising quick fixes for your weight gain, thinned hair, and acne. 

I mean seriously...where does it stop??

Do yourself a favor and stop buying into all the crap these commercials and magazines come up with as their objective is to make you feel bad about your body in order to sell their products.

Divert your attention instead to those men and women who love their bodies regardless of how what it looks like and what people think of them.


  • One such woman is Harnaam Kaur. She is worthy of praise. She is now known for her beard and she's totally comfortable with her appearance. 

  • Prince William belonging to the Royal family has all the means to cover his baldness from the world but he did not hide it from the world even on his wedding day.

  • Sarah Jessica Parker from Sex and The City is often criticized for her unconventional look. She used to be asked to get her nose done but she isn't a fan of Botox and says "I kinda dig that I'm so flawed".

  • Turia Pitt the Australian Runner and model was caught in a ferocious fire that left her with burns to 64% of her body in 2011. She has extensive scarring to her body, half her left foot had to amputated and a large part of both ear lobes are missing. But she did not let any of that stop her from living her life. She now inspires millions around the world. She fully embraces her new self and helps others to do so to.

Here are a few ways to help you love your body

 Tell your body how much you love it.
Just like you would be happy to hear somebody tell you they love you...so does your body.
I never heard ANYBODY tell me they love their bodies. Have you? 
I feel it's kind of taboo to do so.
Let's change it. If you're parent make sure you show your kids how much you love your body.
As Kate Winslet says, " a positive physical outlook has to start at an early age".

 Stop that inner negative self-talk. The more you curse your body and what it looks like the more miserable you'll feel. Remember you are worthy of your own love.

 As long as you are healthy your body is not a problem that needs to be fixed.

 Cancel your subscriptions to all those glossy magazines that showcase women having a picture perfect body. Most of them are heavily photoshopped.

 If you're a mom and have got scars from a c-section...remind yourself how great you are for creating life. Millions of women wishing to have kids would happily trade spots with you.
So be proud of your scars and stretch marks.

 Learn to be happy and embrace your present body while you work towards achieving your ideal body shape.



 Your body is the only place you have to live. You're going to be in it until you die.
You might as well get comfortable in it.

 Instead of wasting time worrying about your flaws and blemishes why not use that time to do something worthwhile.

 Did you know : Your skin replaces itself every 35 days. You are given a new liver every 6 weeks. Your stomach lining replaces itself every 4 days and your entire skeletal structures are regenerated every 3 months.
So please don't take your body for granted. You have been bestowed with something extraordinary. Learn to appreciate it every single day for allowing you to carry out the day's tasks.

 Surround yourself with people who remind you of your inner beauty and encourage you to be the best version of yourself.

 Most of us are on social media right? Try posting a profile picture of yourself without ANY makeup. Yes! No makeup at all. I've done it and I can tell you by doing so, you give your self-esteem a huge boost and indirectly show the world that you are proud of your flaws.

 Your body needs your full support...so support it as you would a friend.

 Wear clothes that you like and feel comfortable in. Don't try to imitate others.

 Always walk confidently. Have a good posture and take pride in who you are.

 Consider all those people who are extremely successful. Did their looks matter to their success?
Unless they're pageant contestants their looks didn't count at all.


 When somebody gives you a compliment take it on board.
Do not try to be modest and self-degrade yourself. This will only weaken your spirit. Accept compliments made to you with grace and gratitude.

 Like it or not...If you're someone who's bent on comparing yourself to other people out there then social media is your worst enemy. Take a long break or reduce time, you spend on social media especially Facebook and Instagram.

 There are people out there who have perfect bodies, skin tone and all that you'd like to have. They did not get there by magic folks. They worked hard for it.
So instead of feeling jealous and hating these people, learn from them.

 If you feel insecure, hate your body and feel like giving up on yourself. Ask for help. There is nothing worse than suffering in silence. Talk to someone who can help and encourage you to feel more secure about your body image and make the changes you'd like to.

 Have unconditional love and respect for your body.
"Loving your body only when it's in perfect shape is like loving your kids only when they are well behaved". Anonymous
Whether you agree or not your body loves you no matter what you do to it.
It is always trying to keep you alive.
Respect it. Treat it properly and it will reward you.




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